[e-nspirations] Craving Appreciation

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"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be 
appreciated."
-- William James
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Praise, just like criticism, needs to be delivered with skill.  After 
all, sincere praise truly is a gift.  Some people are as embarrassed 
by praise as they are by receiving an unexpected gift.  

In learning how to make appropriate compliments, we need to 
distinguish between flattery and praise.  Flattery focuses on what 
someone has no control over and did nothing to earn.  Praise is 
aimed at a behavior, accomplishment or an attitude.  Consider using 
the word 'you' in your compliment.  It's perfectly acceptable to 
make comments like, "I admire the way you kept your cool during 
that heated exchange,"  "You did a good job on that presentation,"  
"You came up with a great idea, thanks,"  "I appreciate how you 
took the time to help that new employee." 

People all over the world go to bed hungry for appreciation.  Look 
for opportunities to praise.  The time to praise people is not when 
you want something in return.  Catch people doing something right 
and praise them for it.

by Jean Kelley

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