From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Fri Jan 5 11:28:46 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Fri Jan 5 11:28:47 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Leaders are Learners Message-ID: <20070105172846.A0D59C00D@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "It is the capacity to develop and improve their skills that distinguishes leaders from their followers." -- Warren Bennis & Bern Nanus ******************************************************************** Great leaders are perpetual learners. They invest time and money in their future by honing their skills. You have heard people called "born leaders." That may be true, but no "born leader" stays one for long unless she has a thirst for knowledge and keeps developing her skills. She must continue expanding her knowledge to stay at the top of her field. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2006, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Thu Feb 1 21:06:33 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Thu Feb 1 21:06:35 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Anger is not the enemy Message-ID: <20070202030633.1A13AC032@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "Anger as soon as fed is dead. 'Tis starving makes it fat." -- Emily Dickenson ******************************************************************** We get angry when we feel no one really "hears" us. We get angry when we are passed over for promotions. We get angry when our contributions are not recognized and affirmed. Feeling angry is normal. Anger is harmful when it is "bottled up" or "starved." When we hold it in we tend to explode at the most inopportune time. Sometimes we have had to apologize for an outburst when the catalyst for the outburst had no relation to the real reason we were angry. Anger is not our enemy -- it lets us know when something is wrong. Anger is not the problem. How we express it, is. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Thu Mar 1 16:07:29 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Thu Mar 1 16:07:32 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Magic Magnifying Glasses Message-ID: <20070301220729.C3B49C32E@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "When I wear my magic magnifying glasses and focus on the problem, the problem magnifies. When I focus on the answer the answer magnifies." -- Bill Wilson ******************************************************************** Even on a good day, work is challenging. Whether it's a cranky co-worker or an unrelenting boss, negotiating the minefield at work is sometimes a stretch and most of the time complicated. The more we focus on our problems the bigger they get. Soon we feel overwhelmed. But one thing is for sure, focusing on the answer makes the answer come quickly. So, put on your magic magnifying glasses. Where you look is what you'll get. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Sun Apr 1 22:20:35 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Sun Apr 1 22:20:37 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] People Don't Care Message-ID: <20070402032035.B94A7C4A9@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?" -- Jean Jacques Rousseau ******************************************************************** Of all the special moments, of all the skills taught and insights shared, what people will remember about you is how you make them feel. Often I ask people to tell me about their favorite relative, someone they feel especially close to -- everyone seems to have a relative like that. Then I ask them to explain what it is about that particular relative that pleases them. What I almost always hear is some variation of "He is so nice." Not once have I heard, "She is so wise." My experience in life and in business leads me to one conclusion. The old axiom is true: People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Tue May 1 23:58:15 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Tue May 1 23:58:16 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Persuade with your ears Message-ID: <20070502045815.57A00C00B@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears -- by listening to them." -- Dean Rusk ******************************************************************** While attending a leadership conference years ago, I heard that to convince a person you are listening to them you must count to three before you respond to what they said. It's a lofty goal and I'm not willing to do it all the time, but I can tell you I have practiced it enough to know it works. A natural part of conversation is to persuade others to your side of thinking. Unless people feel fully heard we have little chance of convincing them. Influencing others is part talking and part listening. When we stop listening and begin thinking about what we are going to say next, we have lost touch with the moment. When we lose touch with the moment, we lose touch with our listener. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Thu Jun 21 22:20:56 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Thu Jun 21 22:20:58 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Be the change. Message-ID: <20070622032056.9D258C086@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "Be the change you want to see in the world." -- Ghandi ******************************************************************** Gandhi was never elected to office and never held a great deal of formal authority. With so much to be changed in his world, Gandhi might have been overwhelmed thinking about what he as one person could do, yet the way he lived his life and the example he set altered history. Each of us is in contact with many people every day, and we have an opportunity to change our environment by changing our response to a situation. When life bears down hard, there is usually something we can do to make it better. We can take action within our own small circle of influence. We can be the change we want to see. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Thu Jul 5 22:54:09 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Thu Jul 5 22:54:11 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Laughter is good medicine. Message-ID: <20070706035409.CA0A1C60F@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "The person who can laugh often, and who finds humor in even the most stressful events, can keep going when others are falling beside the way." -- Nido Qubein ******************************************************************** Several years ago a good friend was plunged into a family tragedy when her husband died suddenly. I had never walked through such with a friend and didn't know what to say or how to comfort her. Except for sleeping, I stayed with her for three days. She had many people in and out of her home before the funeral. What struck me was how important laughter was for her. My friend told humorous stories about her husband, and we all laughed and we all cried. Even in times of personal tragedy, we can find humor. When our hearts are breaking, a good laugh will give us a reprieve. Humor is the glue that holds our hearts together. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Wed Jul 25 23:45:03 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Wed Jul 25 23:45:06 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] The conversation you're not having Message-ID: <20070726044503.164FDC059@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "The most important conversation is the one you are not having." -- Susan E. Greene ******************************************************************** I grew up with a notion that being happy meant always being emotionally comfortable. Now wiser, I know "always" is impossible, yet imagination still lures me back to that notion. When I hold to the fantasy that life is easy, I hold to the fantasy relationships are easy. Life is messy, relationships are messy and it all ends up here: The conversation I know I must have is the same conversation I don't yet have the courage to have.   Rough spots in past relationships help me acknowledge that intimate conversations are not easy, especially when I anticipate a conversation might be uncomfortable. It is easier to speak logically and antiseptically from my head than to speak painfully and haltingly from my heart. Action drives life, just as action drives relationships, so I have to take that long walk from my head to my heart and sincerely speak my truth. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Wed Sep 5 21:42:49 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Wed Sep 5 21:42:51 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] The Way to Our Strength Message-ID: <20070906024249.3902DC00D@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "The manner in which one endures what must be endured is more important than the thing that must be endured." -- Dean Acheson ******************************************************************** Throughout our lives we are all tested in different ways. Some people endure physical incapacities. Most of us face financial difficulties occasionally. Don't we all deal with family and emotional issues? Yet, our problems themselves are less important than the way in which we handle them. Understanding our choices may help in our decision making. Sometimes the choice calls for getting up our courage and asserting ourselves. Sometimes choice means keeping quiet and enduring in silence. Other times choice means sharing a story that could make a difference in another's life. When we look less at our problems and more at how we go about handling them, we find the way to our strength. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Mon Oct 8 08:14:16 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Mon Oct 8 08:14:17 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] If you want to be happy Message-ID: <20071008131416.BFA12C01C@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." -- Dalai Lama ******************************************************************** Picture the last time you helped a baby take her first steps. She stood up, wobbled a bit, and fell. Her efforts warmed your heart. You were happy with each of her awkward movements and encouraged her with every emotion in you. Not once did you say, "Just stand up and walk!" Nor did you unkindly and impatiently say under your breath, "Hurry up!" or "You can't do anything right!" or "How stupid of you!" Yet, how many times in our impatience with ourselves do we berate ourselves with an internal monologue of hostile and negative static? Do we know how much better we might feel when we are gentle, encouraging and kind to ourselves? Just for today, when you make a mistake, be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a child. Treating ourselves with compassion helps us to challenge our own self-criticisms. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Thu Nov 1 13:38:30 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Thu Nov 1 13:38:32 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] There is no one to blame. Message-ID: <20071101183830.56A27C00D@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "Take your life in your own hand and a terrible thing happens. There's no one to blame." -- Erica Jong ******************************************************************** We use so many words to keep our well being in the hands of others. We say to ourselves, "If only my children would listen; if only my boss would understand; if only I were smarter, better-looking, healthier." We invite this negative self-talk, and we take no notice of the havoc that follows. If-only thinking is victim thinking and results in poor-me behavior. Poor-me behavior will keep us emptied of our resources and full of resentment. Only when we take the reins and accept full responsibility for our lives can we be the architects of our fate. As adults we are the sum total of all the decisions we have made, and most of what we have become we owe to ourselves. Only when we accept this can we reclaim our lives and move on to better and better choices. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: From e-nspirations at jeankelley.com Tue Dec 4 16:12:37 2007 From: e-nspirations at jeankelley.com (e-nspirations@jeankelley.com) Date: Tue Dec 4 16:12:38 2007 Subject: [e-nspirations] Illusion of Control Message-ID: <20071204221237.16312C00D@mail.sus4.net> ******************************************************************** "With the only certainty in our daily existence being change... speed helps people think they are keeping up." -- Gail Sheehy ******************************************************************** It seems that rush, rush, rush is all we do. Many of us try to do things as fast as possible. Many times we don't question our priorities. We don't take time to look around us. We don't notice the people we pass on our way to our ever-so-important destination. We love to accomplish; it gives us an illusion of control. Just for today, slow down. Slowing down may mean rearranging your schedule. Pause to notice the breath you are taking, walk slower, and truly experience what's around you. Slowing your pace will allow your mind and spirit to be where your body is. by Jean Kelley e-nspire a friend!! Invite someone you know to receive these monthly messages. ___________________________________________________________________________ Jean Kelley Consulting specializes in executive development, selection, and retention. Through her seminars, media exposure, books, and one-to-one consulting, entrepreneur Jean Kelley has helped thousands of people improve their positions. Jean Kelley Consulting, Inc. 918-496-9192 Copyright 2007, Jean Kelley *************************************************************************** Resources: For more information about Dear Jean books and materials: To e-nspire a friend: